There are two words that I ban from my vocabulary. More specifically, there are two adjectives that I ban from my vocabulary. When I say "ban" I honestly mean that I do not say them at all. And it's about time we all start reconsidering saying them, too.
So, what are the two adjectives I ban from my vocab??
"Fat" & "Skinny"
Hearing someone be described as fat honestly makes my stomach turn. What constitutes someone or something being fat? Is there a number on the scale or pants size that determines it? What does it mean when one person calls another person fat?
It is way to definitive of a word for being so inaccurate.
I have always had trouble hearing this f-word. And it saddens me to hear people describing themselves in that way. Perhaps you are a little "overweight" or "could lose a few pounds" but you are never fat. Ever. Just stop thinking about it. Stop using it. Forget that word even exists.
In addition to it not being accurate, it is word that just breathes negativity. Do you know how many different ways you can describe a person without using hurtful and negative language? Appearances aside, people are kind, interesting, well-traveled, graceful, thought-provoking...and so on.
I challenge you to think of words when you meet someone to describe them that doesn't involve their appearance. That is who a person is.
You might be thinking, well if I say someone is skinny, that is a compliment, right? Well, maybe think again.
Similar to "fat", skinny is a definitive term that really has no scale (no pun intended) of measurement. What constitutes "skinny"? Is it a certain weight or waist circumference?
Kim Kardashian recently released a video of her sisters saying she is "so skinny" and she LOVED it. She's actually hysterically excited about it.
Seeing this video made me very angry & sad. First, "skinny" does not mean "healthy" and there are plenty of people out there who are skinny due to being ill. I know this first hand, as I was at my lowest weight and clothing size when I was sickest with my Crohn's. In fat, my weight had an inverse relationship with my health. So when people called me "skinny" it was not a good thing. Size does not equate health.
Secondly, why are we as a society so obsessed with being skinny?? It is bad enough that people suffer from eating disorders but now you have idols like Kim K. who further drive the thought home that "you cannot be skinny enough". It is sickening.
As I mentioned above, why not focus on other qualities people possess that are internal? I don't know about you, but I would rather be described as pleasant, plump, and kind than skinny, bitchy, and rude. [Actually, healthy and happy is my ideal state and I plan on staying that way :) ]
If you truly are focused on a certain body size and look, aim for "healthy", "toned", or "athletic".
Now that you know my stance on the words "fat" and "skinny", I hope you are encouraged to eliminate (or at least reduce) them from your vocabulary. We are so much more than just two categories to describe how we look, and who we are as individuals. It is time to retire these old-fashioned terms and begin to see people for who they really are--both inside and out.
And, as my motto goes--"It is not about being skinny, it's about being your BEST WHOLE SELF."